The Show

Episode 61: Chronic Pain and Pleasure with Kristina Nekyia

‘Learn to listen to yourself…without judgment.’

Pleasure requires a presence of the mind and body, but how do you do that when your body and mind are in pain?

Kristina Nekyia began her career as an underage stripper in Boston and now helps people find mobility and strength through intuitive flexibility training. She negotiates chronic fatigue syndrome and fibromyalgia. She is also one of the most sensual performers and personalities I know. We talk about how to be friends with pleasure in the midst of chronic pain and how kink was a pathway to healing.

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Episode 60: Revealed with Dr. Juliana Hauser

“Sexuality is the essence of who you are.”

Dr. Juliana is the creator of Revealed, a program that helps individuals find their power through sexual agency. We talk about the long winding road to pleasure and how to quiet the noise of society to live a more authentic life.

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Episode 59: Wheel of Consent with Robyn Dalzen

“Empowerment is about coming into choice.”

Robyn Dalzen, an ex-mormon turned pleasure revolutionary, talks about the Wheel of Consent created by Dr. Betty Martin. The wheel is made up of 4 quadrants: taking, allowing, serving, accepting. We talk about how the wheel impacts our relationships and how it can better put us in touch with our desires.

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Episode 58: Sex Magic with Gabriela Herstik

This is the perfect episode as we head into Halloween weekend!

I speak with a practioner of ceremonial erotic witchcraft and Goddess worshiper, Gabriela Herstik about her new book, Sacred Sex. We talk about the divinity in the mundane, pleasure, intention and of course, sex magick. If you’ve ever been curious about adding a little magick in your life, check out this episode and check out her book!

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Episode 57: Menopause: A New Hope with Dr. Lauren Streicher

Dr. Streicher is a Menopause Miracle and gives us new hope for the big change!

Although Menopause has its own musical, we still know very little about it. Dr. Lauren Streicher is a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine and the medical director of the Northwestern Medicine Center for Sexual Medicine and Menopause. We discuss why menopause is such a mystery and how you can learn more about it and take charge of your life. We cover everything from hormone treatment to sex drive to birth control to orgasm. This is a must listen!

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Episode 56: Honey Hive with Leslie Lyons

You cannot think your way to power. You cannot think your way to confidence. You must experience it in your body. – Leslie Lyons

Leslie Lyons has 16 years of experience coaching women to reclaim their voices, stand in their power and own their pleasure. We talk burlesque, pole dance, the healing power of sensual movement and about her new community, Honey Hive, exclusively for women over 40.

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Episode 55: In Full Bloom with Lotus Lain

Lotus Lain, winner of the XBIZ RISE Peer Empowerment Award, has crafted her way to becoming a top influencer among her peers in the competitive adult industry. We talk about how a ‘Dirty 30’ gift paved a way for her full expression, why getting angry is good, and why it’s important for all bodies to be represented and celebrated on screen.

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Episode 54: The Intimacy Artist with Angela Michelle

It’s not about what your body can do for you. It’s about what your body allows you to experience. –Angela Michelle

In this Season 4 opener, I talk with an award winning published boudoir photographer, certified sexologist and intimacy and body image coach Angela Michelle! We talk about the importance of ritual in pleasure and intimacy and also what it is like to pursue pleasure with an invisible disability.

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Episode 53: Bladders, Bowels & Kegels Oh My! with Jen Niemeyer, PT DPT

Season 3 is ending with one of my favorite topics: Pelvic Floor Health.

Jen Niemeyer is an orthopedic physical therapist and with a specialty in pelvic health rehabilitation. We talk about the role the pelvic floor plays in all of our lives, how to notice when there is a problem, how to care for it, and of course, Kegels.

If you are interested in finding a provider in your area, please visit The Academy of Pelvic Health.

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Episode 52: Trauma Queen with Jimanekia

Jimanekia is host of the podcast Trauma Queen, founder of Tending the Garden (a non-profit dedicated to sexual assault victims and their allies) and co-founder of Centaury Co, an intimacy coordinator group for TV & film. In this episode we talk about the definitions of trauma and triggers, self care practices and how to approach ‘looking down there’ when there has been trauma or assault. Oh…and we talk about wrestling.

CW: We discuss hard things. In this episode you will hear mentions of violence and sexual assault. Please engage your self care techniques when needed.

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Episode 51: Mommy and Me with Pure Pleasure Shop

Amy Baldwin, host of the Shameless Sex Podcast, and her mother Janis own a toy store. But not just any toy store, a sex shop with pleasure positive toys and accessories called Pure Pleasure Shop. This is a mother-daughter duo to be envious of! We talk about what it was like to grow up in a sex positive home, having a mom you can truly talk about anything with, and how teaching pleasure is just as important as teaching safe sex to your children.

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Episode 50: Slippery When Wet with Uberlube

We have Über love for Überlube! Cheryl Sloane is the brand director of the most luscious lube you will ever own, Überlube. We discuss the important benefits of using lube no matter your age, how to use it and even some surprising ways you can add it to your beauty and self care routine. Use the discount code lookdownthere at https://www.uberlube.com/

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Episode 49: Sex and Cannabis with Reba the Diva

Reba the Diva is the founder of Sexpert Consultants in Washington, DC. She is an advocate for HIGHtened pleasure with Cannabis. We talk about divas, sensuality, vulnerability and how to get your bits high!

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Episode 48: Death Becomes Her with Nicole Daigle

While this show is not about vulvas, it IS about something we don’t talk about. Death. Death doulas or end of life doulas tap into our desires as the living: What do you want when you die? Nicole Daigle helps to prepare the living for their death and not only presents them with different burial options (standard, cremation, aquamation) but also asks what environment people want to be in, who do they want around, what music do they want playing, etc. This is more than just about who gets what money. It’s about honoring the cycle of life and talking about the inevitable with integrity and respect.

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Episode 47: Bellydance, Punk and Witchcraft with Pleasant Gehman

Pleasant Gehman, aka The Princess of Hollywood, has seen and done it all and continues to do so. From fronting her all female punk bands, The Screaming Sirens and the Ringling Sisters to teaching bellydance in Egypt to performing burlesque all over the world, Pleasant is full of stories that seamlessly transition from one to the next. She is confidence and empowerment personified and taps into her witchy intuition to guide her through her wild and wonderful life.

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Episode 46: Wonder Woman with Robin Slonina

Robin Slonina is an artist based in Las Vegas who specializes in murals and body painting and she was the co-host with RuPaul on the show, Skin Wars. We talk about aging as a woman, beauty standards, insecurities, and the power and message of Wonder Woman, her muse.

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Episode 45: Pleasure Mapping with Peekaboo Pointe

Peekaboo Pointe is a burlesque dancer, choreographer and performance artist in NYC. We talk about pleasure mapping, the act of discovering why and how we come to view pleasure in the ways that we do and how that impacts our life experience. We also discuss why it is so important to pursue pleasure, even in tough times.

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Episode 44: Pleasure Science with Nadège 

Nadège is a sex scholar, fiction novelist and spiritual maven who helps people feel healthy and empowered in their sexuality. We talk about how pleasure and science intersect and why it is that we condemn those that pursue and provide pleasure even though it’s something we all want and all deserve. Get 20% off her erotic astrology books using the code ‘lookdownthere’ at www.pleasurescience.com.

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Episode 43: The Millennial Sexpert with Javay da BAE

Javay da BAE is the genius behind the Millennial Sexpert, a resource for acceptance, empowerment and encouragement for sexual education and wellness. We talk about creating a pleasure practice, why it’s important to be intentional with pleasure and what sex is like for the millennial generation. She will be presenting Lights, Camera, Action: How to Make the Home Movie of Your Dreams at InToPleasure on April 2nd. REGISTER NOW.

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Episode 42: Bound with Lief Bound and Icarus

There is so much more to rope than you know! The possibilities are endless! Lief Bound and Icarus are two leading instructors, demonstrators and practitioners in the rope bondage world. Their enthusiasm for rope is inspiring. We discuss how their work has helped them explore their bodies and emotions in surprising ways, how that has increased their confidence and influenced how they communicate and navigate the world on a daily basis. They will both be presenting at InToPleasure on April 2nd. REGISTER NOW.

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Episode 41: Raw Power with Kitten de Ville

Season 3 opens with a bump & grind! Kitten de Ville is one of the originators of the modern burlesque movement. She has had, and still has, an amazing career that has brought her to stages with The Cramps, Rob Zombie, Raquel Welch, Madonna and The Teenage Werewolves. We talk about her innate sexual confidence and her lust for life on and off stage and how it was important for her daughters to see their mother as a strong sexual force full of passion.

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Episode 40: Happy Clitmas with Clitoriscious

Season 2 comes to a close with Sydney Harris, the mastermind behind the Instagram account, Clitoriscious. They are passionate about debunking myths about the clitoris and making sexuality and pleasure education accessible to all. We talk about all things clit and how our jealousy towards other women is really a manifestation of the lack of our own self acceptance.

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Episode 39: The Cupcake Girls with Amy-Marie Merrell

Cupcakes are just the beginning! The Cupcake Girls is a non-profit organization that provides prevention and after care of domestic sex trafficking. Amy-Marie Merrell is the executive director based in Las Vegas. We discuss how we can move out of a victim blaming culture and how The Cupcake Girls have helped sex workers in all areas of their lives. We also talk about how the removal of ego is necessary in advocacy work and the importance of curiosity. How can you be curious if you feel unsafe? Take a listen and make a donation to this great organization.

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Episode 38: The Consent Wizard with Mia Schachter

Mia Schachter is a consent educator, intimacy coordinator and the host of the podcast, Share the Load. Mia believes in the magic and power in knowing our desires and we talk about how consent is more than just saying no, but about listening to your yes. And we answer the question, ‘Is consent sexy?’ YES!! The sexiest

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Episode 37: Burly Cares with Miz Charlamay

BurlyCares is a charity driven organization intended to assist senior Legend burlesque and variety performance artists. It is the mission of BurlyCares to improve the quality of life and ease some of the stress so many senior Legend performers face. We talk about stripping away the ego and moving into confidence that is trusting and knowing, a necessary skill as a care taker.

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Episode 36: Pussy Pedia with Zoe Mendelson and María Conejo

This dynamic duo have released a new book about all things pussy. Pussy Pedia needs to be on everyone’s shelf. After seeing a vast hole (pun intended) where pussy information should be, writer, Zoe Mendelson reached out to illustrator María Conejo and created pwordpedia, a site dedicated to pussy truth. They have compiled their years of research and created a hot pink pussy bible that is approachable, enraging and hilarious.

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Episode 35: Indigenous Burlesque with Lou Lou La Duchesse de Rière

Lou Lou is a half black/half Mohawk internationally renowned neo burlesque dancer. In this episode, we discuss indigenous ritual and tradition and how that manifests in her art and family life. We also talk about how experiencing racism and bullying only fueled her passion for advocacy and fighting for what is right.

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Episode 34: Double Scoop of Pleasure with Valerie Stunning

‘Be the pleasure you wish to see in the world’. Valerie Stunning is the proud Creamstress of Paradise City Creamery, a plant based, gluten free pop up ice cream shop in Las Vegas. She embraces indulgence as a lifestyle and uses her platform to advocate for her sex worker community. When asked, ‘One scoop or two’, the answer is easy.

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Episode 33: Your Body, Your Choice with Shailushi Ritchie

Shailushi Ritche is the co-host of the I Am Speaking Podcast and founder and CEO of Sevah Consulting, which provides transitional leadership to non-profits. She is focused on girls and women’s equity and has been on the forefront of advocacy for reproductive rights. We talk about how to use anger for positive change even when the odds are continually stacked against you and how hope and a view of the bigger picture keeps you in the game.

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Episode 32: Sluts and Scholars with Nicoletta Heidegger

Nicoletta Heidegger is the host of the popular podcast, Sluts and Scholars. She is a sexologist and equine assisted psychotherapist. We take a moment to chat about sexuality, pleasure, masturbation (a word we both don’t like), and how to begin your self love/pleasure journey.

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Episode 31: Ceramic Vulvas with Jamie Bates Slone

Jamie Bates Slone is an Assistant Professor of Ceramics at the University of Oklahoma. She is passionate about capturing the fragility of the human spirit and has found a niche is sculpting vulvas. We talk about the ways we can address our bodily shame with art, addressing mental illness and how art not only heals the audience, but the artist as well.

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Episode 30: Self Censorship with Flowerbomb

Flowerbomb is known as the Bootyful Bottom of Burlesque. She is the director of the Seoul School of Burlesque and the House of Tease. We talk about the effects of censorship on art and why we must continue to fight the good fight. You’ll hear about underboob, the dreaded ‘vortex’ and what it’s like to be the FIRST.

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Episode 29: Private Practices with Coco Ono

We are starting off Season 2 with Coco Ono! She is a Los Angeles based performance artist who was born in South Korea and adopted by a Japanese American family. We talk about her project, Sacred Wounds, an online show focused on ritual and subverting the stereotypes of Asian American performers and Private Practices, an art show in LA featuring ephemera from sex workers.

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Episode 28: Raising the Skirt with Catherine Blackledge

Catherine Blackledge is a science communicator and sex and fertility campaigner. She is the author of Raising the Skirt, The Unsung Power of the Vagina. The book dives into the history of ‘pussy flashing’ through the ages and yoni worship in matriarchal societies. We talk about all the names for this mysterious part, pleasure and the extraordinary anatomy of HYENAS!

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Episode 27: Look at IT! with Nyssa Care

Nyssa Care is a women owned company that brings awareness to our transformative years” puberty, post menopause and the 4th trimester. They are the creators of the most innovative ‘look down there’ mirror called VieVision. It’s Amazing! We talk about the sever lack of maternity leave, the misinformation and body expectations surrounding pregnancy , and our hopes for a more equitable future.

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Episode 26: Period Productivity with Shari Hussenbocus

Periods are a part of life but there is so much misinformation and shame surrounding them. Shari Hussenbocus is a functional dietician and AIP (auto immune paleo protocol) coach. She helps those with periods and autoimmune issues. We talk about the best times in your cycle to be creative, what to look out for when you have your period and how autoimmune disease can impact your cycle.

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Episode 25: Layneau with Kaaren Harper

Kaaren Harper is the founder and designer of the exquisite lingerie brand, Layneau. We discuss sensuality in all its forms and how intention and attention to detail create beauty in products and in our lives. We talk about how living in your YES is both a service to others and to yourself.

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Episode 24: Glamour Girl with Miss Miranda

Miss Miranda is a burlesque star, costume designer, high fashion fetish model and a feminist. We talk about what it means to pursue a glamour aesthetic and that glamour and feminism are not mutually exclusive. We take a peek behind the curtain and discuss mental health and the freedom, peace and strength that comes with vulnerability.

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Episode 23: The Vulva Gallery with Hilde Atalanta

Being a vulva owner can be an experience that is full of shame and trauma but also joy and pleasure. Hilde Atalanta created The Vulva Gallery, a gallery dedicated to the diversity of vulvas. They illustrate vulvas and share beautiful stories on their website and instagram feed. Check out the Vulva Gallery and you will be immediately supported and empowered!

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Episode 22: Hair Today, Gone Tomorrow with Cedrice

You may know this bald beauty from Season 18 of The Voice. Cedrice is a powerful force on and off the stage. We talk about what it is like living with alopecia and the struggles and blessings that come with this autoimmune disease. Check out her music at www.cedricemusic.com

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Episode 21: Women are the Future with Danielle Colby

Danielle Colby, from American Pickers fame, talks about being poor, stripping history, the important role that women play in shaping our future and stripping off all the fucks.

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Episode 20: The Power of Stillness with The Maine Attraction

The Triple Threat of Burlesque, The Maine Attraction, joins me from NYC. She has performed alongside James Brown, Lady Gaga and Tony Bennett. We talk about nudity, art, ancestors and our love for the SLOW striptease.

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Episode 19: Sex Worker Style with Jo Weldon

Jo Weldon is the founder of The New York School of Burlesque and the author of The Burlesque Handbook and Fierce. We discuss her current project, Sex Worker Style, the joys of spandex and trashy lingerie.

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Episode 18: Naked News with Laura Desiree

Laura Desiree is a lead anchor, writer and show producer at Naked News. We discuss what it means to be a professional naked person and the common misconceptions that come with the job. We also talk about our relationships with our own vulvas and how porn has influenced that and what the industry is doing to change the proliferation of self hatred among vulva owners.

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Episode 17: The Big O with Dr. Erica Marchand

Dr. Erica Marchand is a licensed psychologist in LA who spends her time helping women learn to have orgasms. We can fake it all day but that serves no one, especially you! We talk about the things that get in the way of the Big O and how we can stop analyzing and comparing our pleasure to others.

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Episode 16: Pin Up with Bettina May

Bettina May is a Canadian born, Las Vegas based writer, photographer, model, filmmaker, burlesque dancer, musician and vintage lifestyle expert. She is the first person to receive a green card based on her ability in burlesque, paving the road for many to follow. We talk about what is was like to be one of the first Suicide Girls, sketchy dressing rooms, body confidence and empowering people through photography.

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Episode 15: A New Network with Lips Social

The censorship of bodies on social media is disheartening, to say the least. Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok are constantly flagging content as ‘sexual’ and people’s livelihoods are being greatly affected by this silencing. So what do you do when these platforms become verbs and not having a presence is detrimental to your business? Enter Lips Social. This new network is dedicated to expression without hate or biased censorship. Can you imagine? I speak with founding member, Val Elefante, about this exciting new platform.

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Episode 14: Kinky with Isabella Sinclaire

Isabella Sinclaire has over 27 years of experience as a pro domme. We talk about golden showers, pistachios, David Letterman near misses, and how the hustle could change in a post Covid world.

You can learn from Isabella Sinclaire on March 20th at the virtual pleasure event, InToPleasure. Register for her class or for the full day of pleasure at a discount.

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Episode 13: Toy Talk with Dirty Lola

Dirty Lola is a sex educator, speaker, and self proclaimed dildo slinger. She is passionate about decreasing shame around sex and sexuality and has ALL the knowledge about about toys for adults. We talk about vulva portraits, why the Womanizer REALLY needs to change their name, and why need to depart from having goal oriented sex to enjoying the ride!

You can learn from Dirty Lola on March 20th at the virtual pleasure event, InToPleasure. Register for her class or for the full day of pleasure at a discount.

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Episode 12: The Lingerie Addict

Cora Harrington is THE Lingerie Addict, founder of the world’s largest lingerie blog and author of Intimate Detail. She is passionate in the belief that lingerie is for every BODY, no matter size, age, race, sexuality, gender or ability. In this episode, we talk about why we HATE the word panties and how Bridgerton, as sexy as it is, is missing the mark on corsetry.

You can learn from Cora on March 20th at the virtual pleasure event, InToPleasure. Register for her class or for the full day of pleasure at a discount.

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Episode 11: Shaken and Stirred

Dirty Martini is a legend and icon of burlesque based in NYC. In this episode we talk about body and age shame in the dance world and the good ol’ days of spread eagles, naked time, and sock photo shoots backstage.

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Episode 10: Yummy for Your Yoni

What we eat can great affect our vulvo-vaginal health and well being. That is a surprisingly controversial statement but the Yoni Nutritionist is here to set us straight and lead us to wellness. As a certified nutritional practioner and wellness coach, she has helped many vulva owners manage chronic yeast infections, herpes outbreaks and candida overgrowth. Enjoy the show and learn to heal from the inside out!

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